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Wedding Guest Fatigue: 5 Tips To Beat It

So you didn’t receive an invitation to Britain’s royal wedding?

There’s no easy way to say this: if it hasn’t arrived yet, it’s probably not lost in the post. On the upside, think about the money you’ve saved on transatlantic plane tickets, taxi fares, hotel rooms, new “bib-and-tucker” (or clothes) as might they say in England. Plus, you get to stay home and avoid stilted conversation with diplomats about the weather and people’s health.

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If you’re lucky, you get to have at least one wedding in your lifetime. (If you’re really lucky, you might get two or even three.) But for the guests, the constant merry-go-round of nuptials can be tiresome and expensive. With apologies to Prince William and Kate Middleton and anyone else meeting with wedding planners, these are Pay Dirt’s 5 tips to beat wedding guest fatigue.

Go splitsville on the registry present.

Split the cost 50/50 with another guest. Joanna Kartalis, director of The Registry at Bloomingdale’s, says it’s okay to share the costs of an item on the registry, especially something at the more expensive end of the range. Are you uncomfortable with buying a prescribed gift? Think again. “You don’t want to buy something that’s left sitting in the attic,” Kartalis says.

Recycle. “Regift” is just a dirty word.

The beauty of gift-giving is to get something the recipient wouldn’t buy for themselves. That’s where all that crystal you never got to use from your own wedding comes in. Don’t think of it as re-gifting, think of it as recycling. Just take off the tags and re-wrap it. One important tip: if it’s a corporate gift, make sure “10 Years Loyal Service” is not engraved on the glass.

It’s okay to decline for financial reasons.

Anna Post, etiquette expert and spokesperson for the Emily Post Institute, says guests can’t be expected to spend possibly thousands of dollars: “If it’s a question of travel it’s okay to decline because you can’t afford to go. I declined to go a wedding because it was too last minute and the plane tickets were just too expensive.” (And, no, it wasn’t the royal wedding.)

Or … say just you’re busy and save $490.

It’s perfectly reasonable to turn down an invitation to a friend’s wedding if you’ve been to a lot, especially if he/she is not that close. According to an American Express Spending & Saving Tracker survey, wedding guests spend an average of $490 to attend a wedding excluding the gift. The survey says Americans attend around two weddings a year, so make that $980.

Make a charitable gift donation instead.

Prince William and Kate Middleton asked guests to donate gifts to a charitable fund. Only 2% of respondents in the Amex survey would prefer a charitable donation as a wedding gift over cash or gifts, but who says that you can’t be the exception? Make a teaspoon-sized contribution to the couple’s ambitious 16-piece dinnerware set and focus on being the life of the party instead.

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      Alright so I’ve been busy lately and will be for a while so I’m gonna close down shop on this theme and redirect you to Incognito For CM6 Final released by bgill55 which is the same base theme with a few minor differences plus bgill added other improvements and such.
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      SPR Do I need CW?
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      SPR Do I need CW?
      I’ll try to get an SPR version out tomorrow if this doesn’t work with it (I’m assuming that you renamed it update.zip and did it the right way, right?).
      but I recommend clockwork anyway. SPR is just outdated in comparison..
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      hey, what is the name of the beautiful widgets clock skin you are using? could you make one that matches the rest of the theme if possible? just installed but im gonna report back any bugs i find. thanks for the upgrade in music player!
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      hey, what is the name of the beautiful widgets clock skin you are using? could you make one that matches the rest of the theme if possible? just installed but im gonna report back any bugs i find. thanks for the upgrade in music player!
      LTTRSclock by Tim Porter. I don’t think I’m going to make one simply because this one matches well enough for me.
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      Nice work. If anyone is running Weather and toggle widgets, the dark edge clock looks nice, especially with no background.
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      Where did you get the Zegoe Light font? And if possible, cant you post a download link for it ?I would really like to apply that font to All the roms that I try out. Thank you.
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      droidking81, on 01 September 2010 – 09:09 PM, said:
      Where did you get the Zegoe Light font? And if possible, cant you post a download link for it ?I would really like to apply that font to All the roms that I try out. Thank you.
      I don’t really know where it came from. And just download the whole theme. the font’s in the /system/fonts/ directory if you unzip it.
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      is there anyway you can provide .zip’s of the Pandora and Music mod themed versions you have here?
      I tried extracting the .apk’s from this theme and installing (uninstalling pandora and music first) but they wouldn’t install, kept getting "application not installed" error. Thanks so much for your work man
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      I install it and it dont show the unlock and no sound icons…. waht happend?and damnn why i cant get the music lockscreen controls to work
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      Can’t get the WL MM to download
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      philsfan, on 02 September 2010 – 04:46 AM, said:
      is there anyway you can provide .zip’s of the Pandora and Music mod themed versions you have here?
      I tried extracting the .apk’s from this theme and installing (uninstalling pandora and music first) but they wouldn’t install, kept getting "application not installed" error. Thanks so much for your work man
      After you extract the apks move them to the root of your SD download a terminal emulator delete the old apks from /system/app (make sure you have r/w access) open the terminal emulator use this command
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      Busybox install sdcard/Music.apk /system/app
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      can you reupload the metamorph, as it is not a valid download link, the server doesn’t work with that file.
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      ^ I agree its pretty much why I haven’t installed this theme yet
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      jimbo, on 02 September 2010 – 10:47 PM, said:
      After you extract the apks move them to the root of your SD download a terminal emulator delete the old apks from /system/app (make sure you have r/w access) open the terminal emulator use this command
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      Busybox install sdcard/Music.apk /system/app
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      Worked perfectly! Thanks man
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      Sorry everyone, I reuploaded the Metamorph. Link in the OP.
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    • It’s all relative. Remember there are probably some big spenders that pull the average up. Most weddings have cost my wife and I far less than $500 to attend. They basically involved the gas money to drive to the church and reception ($10?). And then maybe one wedding every few years that requires an international flight and hotel — which probably pulls the average up to a few hundred bucks per wedding.

      I was hoping this article was about how to keep from getting bored at a wedding! That would have been much more entertaining.

    • $500 to attend a wedding? Not on your life unless it’s the son or daughter of a close friend. We are constantly getting wedding invitations, graduation announcements, etc. from casual friends or employees. We send a gift and a card.
      We’ve had a few invitations from friends who are having a wedding (daughter or son) in some exotic location. We do the same. Send a nice gift. We’re not going to spend $1000 for plane fare, 500 for a car, 500 for a room, etc. just to attend a wedding.

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